Nando Dwiyandi 's blog

The Six Stages of Change
Once we understand that everything in our lives is in one way or another self created, we can change. It takes courage to understand that if we want a better life then we are going to have to make changes. All of this leads to the following process.
1. When something goes wrong, the first thing we usually do is deny the problem. This does not fix the problem it only perpetuates the problem for a longer period of time.

2. Then we get angry at the situation and all the people around us, and this keeps us from looking at the situation from a logical point of view.
3. Thirdly we start blaming someone or something else for the problems we have. That way we don’t have to look within. Blaming makes it easy to put our fears and anxieties off onto someone else. Scapegoats work well to keep us happy with our unhappy situation.
4. Then there is depression. We feel overwhelmed with the situation and we allow it to take over our lives to the point that we fall into a pit of self-pity and despair. We keep hoping that the problem will fix itself.
5. After that we start accepting responsibility, looking at the situation and acknowledging our role in this process and taking the bull by the horns.
6. Finally we take action, work on ourselves, making decisions and making changes in our lives. If I don’t like where I live, I can make changes so that I have the money to live some where else.
Perhaps I need to go back to school in order to get a great job. Maybe I’m working long hours and I need to find new ways of working smarter instead of harder. No one can take away our education, self-education and inspiration. All it takes is a little perspiration, diligence, the knowing we will never give up.
How are you doing? At what stage are you at right now? Are you at anger, denial, blaming? Or have you moved forward to acknowledgement and action? Life is simple all we have to do is look deep.
You can also bypass this whole process once you become enlightened and jump right to change-That's up to you!
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